It’s Father’s Day. In our house there were hand-made cards and a breakfast picnic hastily reconvened at the kitchen range because of the downpour.
On social media, dads were bragging, families posting about gatherings and long-gone fathers fondly remembered.
What can I add about dads, today?
I miss my dad, he inspired my first ever blog post – ours was a pretty straightforward father-daughter story.
But I think the whole dad business is often much more complicated. The traditional set-up isn’t very common. Kids have step dads, part-time dads, dead dads, two mums, absent dads and two dads.
Single mums and widows fret about a lack of dad.
Step dads step into the role because the kids are part of a package deal.
Absent dads fights for access or stuff their access time with too much fathering.
Two-mum families take on double duties.
What difference does it make? What difference does a dad make? It depends. Without doubt there’s a dad job to be done, but it doesn’t need to be done by the actual father, or even an actual man, or the same person all the way through.
This Father’s Day lets celebrate everyone who does a dad job for us and our kids, whoever they are.