Arguments are a natural part of every relationship. When you spend the majority of your time with another person, there will always be little things you disagree on. However, it’s never healthy to have too many arguments – especially when they get very heated and emotional. So, here are my tips to help avoid as many arguments as possible in your marriage:
Communicate with each other
The absolute best way to avoid arguments is to communicate with one another. If you don’t talk, then there are bound to be instances where mistakes are made, and arguments form. Something as simple as texting your spouse and asking them to pick up some milk will save an argument. It stops them coming home, wanting a cup of tea, and getting annoyed because they didn’t know there wasn’t any milk. Couples who communicate will usually stay clear of petty and pointless arguments. Also, you shouldn’t bottle things up when something is bothering you. It’s always better to communicate your feelings to your loved one as they should understand where you’re coming from. This prevents situations where something stays bottled up for too long until you explode and an argument ensues.
Control your anger
Anger is probably the most powerful emotion you have. When you’re angry, you’re capable of doing things you never even knew you could do. In arguments, anger is usually what causes everything to explode. You make an angry remark, and the next thing you know you’re on the phone to some family law experts organising a divorce. That may seem extreme, but things can quickly spiral out of control when you let anger get the better of you. You’ll say things you regret, and they’ll say things they regret, and it can be hard to reconcile after. So, always make efforts to keep your anger under control. A good rule is to always take a few seconds before you respond to anything. Count to five in your head and take a deep breath, this prevents your emotions from running free!
Spend quality time together
It’s amazing how many arguments stem from both of you being upset that you’re not spending time together. Some marriages feel as though the romance fizzles out, which makes you distant and resentful to each other. As a result, arguing becomes more frequent. But, if you take the time to actually be together as a couple and spend quality hours together, then things improve. Go on little holidays now and then to take a break from your kids and busy life, allowing you to spend time alone. Schedule a date night every week so you can go out and enjoy a meal – this also helps with the whole communication thing as well. Couples that make an effort to spend time together will find that arguments become less frequent.
If you feel like arguments are too common in your marriage, then take all of this advice on board. It’s all about communication, controlling your temper, and making time for each other.