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Whats wrong with being a feminist?

May 25, 2012 By Ellen

I’m not a feminist, but…

Again and again people who espouse the values of feminism are heard to utter this proviso. But why?

If we can more our less agree that treating men and women equally and allowing them equal opportunity is a good thing then what’s the problem?

Furthermore, if we can more our less agree that it doesn’t happen as often as it should, then surely we must all be feminists?

Here’s some other things that feminists can be:

Sexy and straight.
Sexy and gay.
Waxed, plucked or shaved.
Mothers and fathers.
Wearing heels, tights and lacey bras.
Doing housework and looking after people.
Wearing pink or pole dancing.
Funny or blonde.

What they aren’t happy to be is: 

Told what they can and can’t do on account of their gender.
Made to feel rubbish just because they are a woman… or a man.
Earn less than a man for the same job.
Accept stuff that simply isn’t right.

I’m a feminist, are you?



Filed Under: Cybher, equality, feminism, Feminist, feminist Friday

Comments

  1. Gappy says

    May 25, 2012 at 8:20 am

    I find it so sad when women want to reject the feminist label.

    If it wasn't for feminism we would not even have the right to vote.

    Personally I feel we should show a little gratitude. I want to ask the nay sayers, what part of equality they don't feel is for them?

  2. Ellen Arnison says

    May 25, 2012 at 8:56 am

    I find it frustrating that the label has so many negative connotations, and if women accept them too it really doesn't help.

  3. msalliance says

    May 25, 2012 at 9:29 am

    The stupidest thing is that we are still having to have this debate at all. It's 2012, for goodness' sake, not 1312.

  4. Ellen Arnison says

    May 25, 2012 at 9:37 am

    Totally agree. In issues of race and sexuality huge leaps have been made, but yet we're still here.

  5. Slummy single mummy says

    May 25, 2012 at 10:50 am

    I am definitely a feminist and not afraid to say it, but it makes me sad and frustrated that judgements can be made against you because of it. I am a feminist but that doesn't mean I am frigid, no fun, man hating and without sense of humour.

  6. Audrey Birt says

    May 25, 2012 at 10:55 am

    Great post Ellen. I think I am fairly reluctant often to attach an ist to myself as if that defines who I am in its totality. But indeed there is still a huge need to promote the aspirations of feminism in our times. Huge strides may have been made but some huge challenges remain. Femageism being one of them. I think when you see attitudes to older women exposed it highlights that their have been campaigns won but the battle remains.

  7. Grenglish says

    May 25, 2012 at 11:10 am

    100% feminist.
    I think somewhere along the way, the meaning has been misunderstood by a few people & they have gone on to reject it as a negative.
    If you are a woman and you want to be treated equally, then you are a feminist.

  8. Ellen Arnison says

    May 25, 2012 at 12:13 pm

    That's just the point – you can be a funny, sexy feminist. In fact, most are.

  9. Ellen Arnison says

    May 25, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    Femagism is an excellent term. In fact, perhaps that's the greater part of feminism because a lot of the unfairnesses don't become apparent until one is a bit older.

  10. Ellen Arnison says

    May 25, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    In a nutshell, yes.

  11. Older Mum says

    May 25, 2012 at 12:28 pm

    Yes, I'm defo a feminist, just not extreme in my views though.

  12. Ellen Arnison says

    May 25, 2012 at 12:37 pm

    I don't think there's anything extreme about equality.

  13. SusanKMann says

    May 25, 2012 at 1:03 pm

    I have to say I'm a feminist and trying to grow my boys that way too. x

  14. Circus Queen says

    May 25, 2012 at 9:09 pm

    I am unashamedly feminist. Becoming a mother has made me embrace it even more. I want my daughter to know her worth and to be equally valued in the world she grows up in.

  15. LadyBB says

    May 27, 2012 at 1:14 am

    Thing I was thinking when we were at Cybher is that I don't wanna call myself a feminist any more. I want the other twats who think that women don't deserve equal rights to call *themselves* something different to the rest of society.

    Can we move on to that? If not now, when?

  16. bigrab says

    May 27, 2012 at 5:13 am

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LS37SNYjg8w

  17. Melaina25 says

    May 27, 2012 at 3:09 pm

    I'm wear my feminist identity proudly and loudly! Feminists can be any size, colour, shape, style or sex and the more people come to realize that the better it is 🙂

  18. DebbieJJ says

    May 27, 2012 at 8:48 pm

    I wrote a post about the term 'feminist' from my perspective. I think the problem for me is how confused the situation has become. I am not sure if this is because of a few labelling things incorrectly and creating a bad vibe, or because it's easy for people to hide behind labels.
    Generally, like the discussions around the term 'mummy bloggers' I think your point about being so much more is so relevant.

  19. Older Single Mum says

    May 28, 2012 at 8:35 pm

    I didn't know I was a feminist until I read it put like that, thank you.

  20. Ellen Arnison says

    May 29, 2012 at 10:25 am

    bring the feminist mother of sons is a huge topic one to which I will return.

  21. Ellen Arnison says

    May 29, 2012 at 10:26 am

    I wonder if the feminist parenting of girls is more difficult than boys.

  22. Ellen Arnison says

    May 29, 2012 at 10:27 am

    Excellent idea. Reclaim the sexist tag.

  23. Ellen Arnison says

    May 29, 2012 at 10:27 am

    Absolutely.

  24. Ellen Arnison says

    May 29, 2012 at 10:29 am

    Interesting. Good discussion needed about the helpfulness of labels.

  25. Ellen Arnison says

    May 29, 2012 at 10:33 am

    It would be fantastic to work on an assumption of equality but sadly we don't have that everywhere.

  26. Ellen Arnison says

    May 29, 2012 at 10:33 am

    : )

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