When I dropped Boy Three off at nursery I gave him a kiss and a cuddle, like usual, and, like usual, said: “Have fun.”
He replied: “You have fun too, mummy.”
“I will,” I said as headed out to the car to perform the elaborate waving ritual. It involves me blowing kisses and flapping my arm out of the car window like a loon while he looks on from the nursery window in a distracted manner, there being much more interesting stuff going on with his pals. Once I tried to suggest we stopped it but he was outraged.
But it got me thinking. How much fun was I actually going to have? My day was likely to be full of deadline-driven writing and editing. I might amuse myself a little bit with some social media banter or, perhaps, gazing vacantly out of the window for a while. But actual fun, probably not.
What’s fun anyway? With kids we mean learning stuff that grips them, hearing stories, playing with their friends, creating things and making a mess. Maybe they’ll get to dance or do some playacting.
As we get older the idea of fun becomes a bit more prescribed. We can do fun stuff at the time we’re supposed to and no other. Not without being a bit of a joker or a lightweight.
Friday nights in the pub is fun. As is a dirty weekend, a trip to the theme park, retail therapy or the annual sunshine holiday. Fancy restaurants, big stadium shows, visits to the cinema.
They’re great – really good fun. But, especially among we nouveau pauvre, they don’t come round all that often.
How would it be if we tried to have a different kind of fun? More like the children in the nursery – with stories and make believe, mess and puddle jumping. And, probably more importantly, we make it an aim for the day – putting it on the to-do list.
Go on, have fun, you know you want to.
Today’s fun involved taking pictures of Boy One’s paint mixing plate instead of washing it.
Today’s fun involved taking pictures of Boy One’s paint mixing plate instead of washing it.
Anonymous says
About that dirty weekend?
Ellen Arnison says
If that's the Panther then we can discuss it later, anyone else – reveal your hand now.