Optimistic children can find it easier to tackle challenges and overcome obstacles to achieve their goals. Being optimistic also increases children’s confidence and self-esteem as they trust in their abilities. They will be more resilient in the face of setbacks, and more likely to push themselves out of their comfort zones. Read on for some advice from an independent school in Surrey on how you can raise an optimistic child.
Silver linings
Help your child see the bright side of situations which are challenging or problematic. Try to frame such circumstances as opportunities to learn and grow. Avoid negativity whenever possible and encourage your child to reframe difficulties in a positive way. If they fail at something, make sure you point out that they tried and that is the most important thing, and ask them to identify what they’ve learnt from failing.
Lead by example
Your child will look to you for lessons on how to respond to challenges or opportunities, so make sure you remain as positive as possible. If something goes wrong, it’s okay to admit disappointment, but try to point out the positives to your child or ask them to help you identify them. Showcase optimism when it comes to potential new opportunities and faith that they’ll work out, while at the same time showcasing resilience if they don’t. Demonstrate an attitude that it’s important to be optimistic but it’s not the end of the world if things don’t come off.
Limit exposure to bad news
Although it’s important for children to be aware of the wider word and what’s going on in it, a constant stream of bad news can lead them to believe that the world is a scary place they need to retreat from. Encourage your child to focus on their immediate environment – their family, friends, school and community – and see what they can help within that smaller circle. This will help them realise that the whole world isn’t bad. When your child is exposed to bad news, it’s worth pointing out that positive events are not often covered by the news but they are still happening all over the world every day. This will help your child keep a sense of perspective and optimism about the world and their place in it.
Maintaining a positive attitude towards life will boost your child’s confidence and resilience and help them feel more satisfied with what they have rather than dwelling on failures or things they lack.