I know it’s a bit of a joke – hit your middle years and you become invisible. No cat calls, no unwanted attention, in fact, no attention at all one way or the other. It’s a superpower of sorts – we can become anything we want, from spies to leaders of industry. So far, so […]
Lusting for Poldark and other examples of sexism
“We’re man and wife,” he said. It was my husband speaking about something I can’t remember. Certainly nothing important. Another one of those domestic conversations, half attended to and disregarded before long. Earlier than most if it was of the ‘it’s your turn’ variety. “Hang on a minute,” I said. “That’s sexist, isn’t it?” “No,” […]
I’m not sexist, but…
You know that sexism everyone’s going on about. The one that everyone agrees is a Very Bad Thing but most certainly doesn’t happen anywhere round here. That one. Well, the thing is, it does happen round here, round there and most other places. It has occurred to me that many of the perpetrators of sexism […]
What’s the point of feminism when so many men are shit?
I wrote this post three years ago. Has anything changed? It was magical. Sunlight made the mountain snow sparkle and the only sound was boots crunching. Boots crunching and people talking. Three women were chatting – intelligent, successful women enjoying the stunning Scottish scenery, respite from the festive round and the chance to […]
Mental load: at last, a name for that thing
You should have asked. It’s the title of a comic strip in the Guardian by French feminist artist Emma. It beautifully describes a thing I’ve been clumsily groping towards for years. When you have all of the stuff for everyone in the house in your head, most of the responsibility for getting things done and, […]